Worried about how to react when a friend has lost a spouse or partner? Try avoiding the following, all of which have been reported to me by friends as extremely unhelpful.
1—Hey, nobody lives forever.
2—Don’t you think it’s time for you to move on?
3—God was running out of angels.
4—Life is for the living.
5—Sell your house–it’s too full of memories.
6—She had a great life.
7—It could have been so much worse—it could have been you!
8—You look so much nicer when you smile.
9—It was really his time.
10—Come on now, you’re not the only one who’s ever suffered a loss.
11—You have so much to live for!
12—Have you tried hot yoga?
Lev Raphael is the author of eight comic mysteries and seventeen other books in a wide range of genres, including Writer’s Block is Bunk.